10+ Reasons Why Kids Should Skip College

file0002022362803When it comes to school for your children, you have to monitor the schools regardless of the type you choose. That’s what makes charter schools a good idea. You don’t have to come up with an alternative because someone’s already doing it at a brick-and-mortar school that’s staffed and ready. This matters if you want your kids to be prepared for college. Then there are the ones who shouldn’t go.

 

Stand Back. I’m Naysaying.

I’m generally not on the bandwagon for sending kids to college unless it’s compulsory. Sending them just because it’s the next level after high school is nonsense.

  1. My biggest rule is knowing what you want to do for a living before declaring a major. Otherwise, how will the plan ever work?
  2. Kids that don’t know what they want to do shouldn’t go to college. It’s a mistake. First, you’re wasting money. Second, you’re hoping that they’ll figure out their lives in a few years.
  3. Many people have gone to college and found they didn’t like what they studied. Trying to save face with peers and elders is costly.
  4. Statistics is a karma class. I came across a young man burdened by all major adult decisions in life except childbirth and buying a home. He was a few weeks behind on statistics homework. In hindsight, repeating it was probably the worst scenario to him at the time. Surely now he sees that viewpoint wasn’t worth postponing his degree.
  5. Students don’t always realize that college doesn’t have to last all day. They actually have more flexibility than they do in high school. Students who are not interested in learning probably don’t even know this.
  6. Many people are afraid to admit a life goal that doesn’t require a degree of any kind. Some women only want to have families. That’s not a crime. It could be cultural or based on their country of origin. Even outside of that, it’s acceptable. Many men want wives that stay home.
  7. Job seekers without degrees claim they don’t get hired because of that. They should have a heart-to-heart conversation with unemployed college graduates. Some of them think their degrees prevent them from being hired.
  8. Many bosses don’t have college degrees but do possess the experience. Those degree holders might not. The unqualified may be in the same boat.
  9. Our society generally doesn’t advocate mentors. Those people know what it takes to succeed. No man is an island is a true, well-known quote by John Donne. Mentors prevent failure by directing and advising youth or inexperienced people. The point is to prevent stagnation, complacency, and professional death.
  10. Not just any old major or degree will do. It has to be viable and marketable. That should be researched before initiating a commitment like college.
  11. Some mistake other students’ zeal for their own majors as a sign that they should follow suit. There’s safety in numbers. College, degrees, and adulthood are as individual as can be.
  12. Apparently, some kids are compliant and will do whatever they’re told. Then there’s what they really want to do. There’s no special blue dot on their foreheads or a glow above them to make them identifiable. You have to get to know them in advance.

When they know what they want, then they should go to college. Or not…

 

 

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The Secret Discrepancy Between Academic and Professional Goals (Part 2)

This is a continuation from the previous post. Students have a way of saying things adults want to hear. They should listen to their truth.

Crash of the Nursing Boom

The nursing arena is now unerringly profitable for registered nurses. The 1990s boom that included a demand for licensed vocational nurses has waned. Job website searches for education and teaching display medical positions before any school industry vacancies. More nurses now work in other medical jobs instead of practicing their trade. Some RNs are trainers valued for their other or auxiliary experience in the industry, e.g., software applications or their knowledge of medical environments. Some LVNs would rather use their nursing skills despite higher salaries in positions that use less training. That’s understandable. Nursing programs are rigorous.

Big Talk v. Bitter Truth

Do What You Are by Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger contains one of my favorite professional anecdotes. It’s about a young woman with dreams of becoming a lawyer. She chose to work as a paralegal while pursuing her goal. The surprise was that she found contentment there and thus ended her pursuit of a law degree.

Experience Related to the Major

That kind of conclusion is the reason I support working or interning in the same industry as one’s college major. There are certain gifts that only experience can give you. One of them is clarity. You see, we give our kids lots of theory about education and work. How much of that is vicarious should be considered. How little of it helps determine what a kid’s potential or interests are should be as well. I had a teacher in high school that was using his second degree. The first one he liked in theory but disliked in practice.

Modeling Off the Catwalk

How many kids take just any job and end up hating it? How many respected adults in their lives sanction that action? I mean hating the job, not work. There’s such a thing as the wrong job. It’s a vampire hanging off the employee’s neck. Struggling to get through the day is implied. It shouldn’t be that hard. Lots of people go through the motions to keep a job. Motivation is the way to keep from becoming the bad or complacent employee. The former threatens the employer’s bottom line and the employee’s job security. The latter is an employee who is living a lie by passing on the surface and dying inside.

In a phone directory, “automotive” and “attorney” are two of the largest sections. There is a reason. Most adults need reliable transportation, whether purchasing or maintaining a vehicle. In a litigious society, an attorney is a mainstay. Only one requires a degree. Both provide considerable financial stability.

Give Them a Break

Basically, we should tell our children that a good basic education and two years of experience will launch their financial futures. College doesn’t guarantee what it once did. I would only promote it for adults who are established and financially independent. A major factor would be whether the employer would endorse pursuit of any higher education with a raise or advancement. In that case, it would also make sense for the employer to fund the necessary coursework.

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The Secret Discrepancy Between Academic and Professional Goals

We still assume that a college graduate is worth more money than a high school graduate.. It’s really a best-case scenario. We ought to say that. Our society blindly promotes higher education to young people. The promise of a demand for their talents is meant to create a higher income.

At Least Three Elephants in the Room

The 2014 film Larry Crownestarred Tom Hanks. It portrayed how an employee without any college education could be deemed irrelevant. He lost his job despite an exemplary work ethic. Later in the movie, one of the college-educated leaders present at his layoff had lost his own job.

We experienced adults discuss how the workforce has become less secure. We know job descriptions request openness, flexibility, and incredibly specific qualifications. The first two are code for doing the work of displaced staff. Most workers have usually reported to leaders who held less than a degree. Multiple articles have stated that the available jobs don’t require the higher education we keep encouraging.

Somehow, we don’t say any of this to our children. The schools don’t, either. Staff and faculty responsible for leading our children academically possess this knowledge. They themselves would use their insights to avoid executing these mistakes in their own careers. Kids don’t know any better unless they are observant or informed.

That’s a huge discrepancy.

The Disturbing Trend

A kid who can’t survive on his own may have to move back home. Parents usually have other plans by that stage. The kids could rent a place with roommates. Parental love will allow them to return home. Mom and Dad will be diplomatically waiting to require a financial contribution to the household. Young adulthood will be curbed by the dominion of an established adult who hopes the stay is temporary.

Our Reality

Too many leaders and not enough worker bees this is what we’ll get if we keep blindly promoting college. Actually, we’re there. How many students have said they want high paying careers? Plenty have. Students fear disappointing their elders and peers. How many lawyers, doctors, and engineers does our society need? Supposedly, we need more law clerks, paralegal, physician’s assistant, nurse practitioners, and engineering technicians.

The next post will feature solutions for the problem.

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Five (5) Motivators for School Choice

cheesy-mouseSchool choice is a big deal because some parents are unhappy with traditional public education. As a result, one solution is charter schools, are a relatively new option. This country is in such a tizzy about it that presidential candidates include it in their platforms.

It isn’t kids fault that the need for alternatives exists. Teachers are certainly not to blame.

First, no offense is intended towards those and others they know of who are exceptions to the following explanations. Millennials haven’t been around long enough to be the total focus of this post, so they aren’t.

Kids have a way of accepting whatever is prevalent in their generation. If they’re reasonably happy, almost everything about it is acceptable to them. What they don’t know, they don’t miss. Because of that, they may interpret any criticism of the situation as a personal attack against them.

For example:

  1. Music is different. The change in quality from the lyrics to the music notes is obvious to some. All it takes id the previous generation’s viewpoint. Songs center on fewer worthy subjects like well, sexual prowess, and being great drinkers or partiers. Raise your hand if you can identify the original for the samples you’ve heard.
  2. Cartoons have changed. Somehow, cartoons with mindless plots, adult themes, peculiar characters, and questionable animation rule the day. Many are shown on cable channels dedicated to airing them for most of a 24-hour period. Before television viewing required cable or a converter, quality cartoons were aired before school and after school on weekdays. Even on Saturdays, they only lasted the morning. After that, generally, kids played outside or found other things to do.
  3. Technological shortcuts are provided for education basics like research. If it can be done on a phone or another device, it will. When books contain unfamiliar words, students don’t want to find the definitions. They don’t feel they should. Who’s modeling that besides the teacher? Learning new words was once a sign of intelligence.
  4. Readers are offended easily. In their eyes, it’s all about being up to date, not competent. How many books are read by the kids you know, whether they’re your children, your students, or not? Do they own them? There are still people who don’t know where the public library is. That’s because they can, among other things, download books on phone apps like Kindle.
  5. American Idol is over, but the concept of singing iconic classics to determine someone’s talent is etched into our society. The winners of these types of competitions don’t usually get new material as good as what qualified them. Going pro should be more advantageous.Should There Be a Disclaimer Here?Notice how most of the items listed here are learned, controlled, and reinforced at home. Trust is a factor. What society allows is considered possible most of the time, even when it’s not. Freedom of choice means we can usually do otherwise to offset any discomfort. That means it isn’t the parents fault, either.

    Traditional public schools are included in that. So are families and socialization.

     

    Conclusion

    Times change. If students aren’t prepared, whose job is it to close the gap? Anyone who sees and recognizes the problem is liable for solving it.

    Education is a low priority in the United States. Math knowledge is still a weakness despite its inhabitants being surrounded by technology. At least some parents and innovators decided to populate charter schools. That’s because they know that the responsibility to educate children and mold them into independent, informed adults is theirs.

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What We Should Teach Our Kids About Failure

Sir Richard Branson didn’t have the best educational record. He was supposedly a terrible student. So were Barbara Corcoran and Thomas Edison, among many. file0002096920720

It takes a lot to persevere in situations like those.

Kids don’t understand the “I’m still here” concept. They think they’re trudging through mud, a sewer, or cement. They don’t get that they’re living through a struggle.

What did the parents of famous failures think of them before their inevitable successes? Did they hold out for the best? Maybe they encouraged them no matter what. Perhaps they chimed in with the teachers that thought they were hopeless or wastes of time.

You don’t know that your kid won’t make you proud. Some people are too unique for the system or for status quo. They don’t “fit” because they’re different. Most parents want their kids to be special. By that, they mean unique or above the standard. Every baby is born as an individual like no other.

Not fitting isn’t a crime. Trying to force a good fit should be. It certainly hurts everyone involved. Giorgio Armani had a modest beginning that contributed to his greatness. That was different, and it got him positive attention.

Every person mentioned here is known for their fantastic level of achievement despite their pasts labeling them as unknowns or traditional failures.

School isn’t adulthood. It’s a regimented framework of habit. Adults can pretty much do what they please. They have more freedom and power. Some debate that.

We don’t teach our kids to keep thinking about their futures in spite of scholastic stumbling blocks. Dr. Ben Carson is an example of how that can work.

We lean toward teaching them tradition as opposed to success. We also model it in how we live. Telling them they won’t make it in life because they fail a school system’s measurement is wrong.

The key may lie in finding them a subject in which to excel.

  1. Encourage them to develop their hobbies for their self-esteem.
  2. Buy them magazines and books about their interests.
  3. Take them to local and major events for those activities.
  4. Introduce them to people who have succeeded with that hobby or skill.
  5. Join clubs so they can interact with others pursuing the same.
  6. Enroll them in classes where they can hone those talents or interests.

It makes their achievement real to them. They’re people like anyone else…or they’re not. They’re just people who happen to be our kids.

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7 Ways to Succeed with Tutoring

It is commonly believed that tutoring will fix any academic problem. In truth, many students think the fixing is the tutor’s job.

Tutoring is usually done after school. Students will probably be forced to sacrifice some of their personal or leisure time to solve the problem. Making good use of time they can’t get back is the best tactic. No one is trying to make this temporary change a permanent one.

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1. Trust the Tutor.

It may feel strange to the student, depending on how far behind she is and for how long it’s been the issue. Whatever he’s been doing will need to change. That’s because it isn’t working. Maybe no one else has taken the route the tutor took with her. Don’t worry. Sometimes improvement feels odd. Once he’s doing better, it will start to feel normal for him.

 

2. Even for New Lessons at Grade Level

When a student’s ability is at the assigned grade level, tutoring probably won’t take over a week or two. The idea is that the student generally understands the subject matter except for some small thing or two. Each session will likely be an hour long, two days per week.

 

3. If  the Student Is Weeks Behind…

If a student is only a few weeks behind, there’s hope. Being somewhat familiar with the material will help greatly. He could catch up in a month or so. Two sessions a week would probably suffice. One exception would be for college statistics courses.

 

4. Or Just Months Behind…

When a student is months behind her grade level, tutoring may take a few months. For two to three days per week, she might have to meet with a tutor for between one and two hours per session. This is still a reasonable scenario because the student isn’t that far behind.

 

5. A Year or So Behind Is Fixable.

If a student’s ability in a subject is a year or so behind the assigned grade level, he will need more than the average amount of tutoring. The farther behind he is, the more effort it will take to make him competent. Three times a week is a typical maximum. Sessions could be from 90 minutes to two hours each. Any missed sessions should be rescheduled as soon as possible.

 

6. Being Years Behind Doesn’t Matter.

Being years behind requires the most work because something hasn’t worked in a long time. A student that is behind by two or more years will need over several months to get up to speed. Effort applied will be directly proportional to the amount of progress the student makes. That’s in addition to the assigned homework for the same subject.

The farther behind she is, the harder this will be. It’s not impossible, but many students quit trying because it’s so much work by that point. It can be done, but she has to want it. Any tips assigned to her by the tutor for use in between sessions should be taken seriously and practiced.

 

7. Student + Tutor = Success.

If he follows the tutor’s guidance, he will improve. It isn’t the tutor’s job to solve the problems. Collaboration between him and the tutor solves them. It will fail if he doesn’t take the tutor’s advice. He isn’t alone in the process. He has a tutor.

 

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Secrets About Your Daughter, the Bully

No parent wants to think this happens to his or her child. The only thing worse would be if one’s own child were the bully. Not just limited to recess and lunchtime, bullying affects the academics of the victims by interfering with their classroom concentration and peace of mind. This post focuses on girl-to-girl bullying.

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Subtle Signs

Your child may be a real hassle during her morning routine, once you get her out of bed.  For some reason, she is unbearably slow. She has no enthusiasm. When you express how late you and she are, she seems to be in another world. This goes on for days or weeks. Some of you revolve around a rushed, crazy, headless chicken scenario, If so, you may be missing clues.

What bullied child wants to go to school? The bulk of your day may be work, but the child’s day is not. Spending it trying to figure out how to dodge aggressive types that faculty cannot control is a lot to ask of a kid. It happens all the time. It is also likely that they will not volunteer that they are being bullied. Despite rules and the presence of experienced, qualified, and knowledgeable personnel, they don’t feel safe. They are already being failed by those.

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Differences of Gender

That stereotypical situation entering people’s minds regarding bullying involves boys. Did you know that bullying by girls does not look the same way?  Read this article in its entirety.  Briefly, such girls claim to desire friendship with other girls. Those later become victims for standing up to them. That’s often done out of refusal to bully someone else. Consider the following storyline.

“Don’t talk to Emily,” Courtney said.

“Why not?” Maria asked.

“She’s mean to me.”

“Really? She’s always nice to me.”

“Well, don’t talk to her.”

“I can talk to anyone I want.  Besides, that would be mean.”

“Then I’m not your friend anymore.”

Maria has to determine whether she wants to lose her “friend”. Usually, she won’t have enough experience in standing alone to see her other options. If you have ever heard such a dialogue as the one above, it involved bullying.

 

Tactics

The bully then turns the victims’ friends against her by using lies. They may even claim that the victim said things about her own friends. Otherwise, they make verbal threats to cause disloyalty. Then the bully takes those associates from her. Students with personalities that seek out a fight are easy to recruit. They don’t even have to know the victim. As a result, they are blind to being lured into the web of deceit. Plenty of other tactics exist. It is about more than taking someone’s lunch.

 

Tattling

The atypical situations test a kid’s values. They’ve known since kindergarten not to tattle needlessly. As they grow and mature, so does that definition.

Where is the whistleblower protection for students? School is preparation for the workplace. That support should exist there.

Another problem is suspending both kids involved in a fight—even when one of them clearly did not strike his opponent. Be serious. How can school faculty and staff work in a place daily and be unable to identify troublemakers? Implement whistleblower protection for the kids who finger troublesome students.  The villains could not be accurately fingered without corroboration.  Sadly, onlookers keep their precious knowledge to themselves out of fear.

 

Characteristics

Additionally, bullies are often scholastically challenged. Who hasn’t heard of the one who is a lousy reader? It is amazing to what lengths kids will go to divert attention from themselves but end up the center of it.

The bully who is poor feels insufficient and concerned that others look down on her. She may have a hygiene problem or have badly styled hair. Maybe her brothers eat all the food at home or make sexual advances toward her. She could be tall or overweight for her age, too.

That insecurity causes her to lash out with unreasonable defensiveness toward those who appear weaker. Perhaps those are the reasons why they foist their issues on others. That is, the problem is that they are victims at home.

 

If School Is Preparation for Work, Then…

Why should the burden for action fall on the victims, their families, and their friends? Do schools have any effective plans in place?

Schools should implement programs that are equivalent to those of employers.  Job sites are far from perfect. The lunch thief problem usually goes no further than a worker who is rarely caught.  Thanks to laxatives and cross-cultural cooking, that is improving. That’s not a school situation, though.

You know your kids. Be kind and open when you approach them about changes you’ve noticed. See to their self-esteem. Your kid could be a closet bully–or a silent victim.

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Do You Know the 7 Reasons You Might Be a Mentor?

For some of us, a degree is a license to practice what we already knew before enrollment. The degradation of higher learning in our society is proved by its low priority. How important is a degree? It’s certainly not the easy way to high pay any longer.

 

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A Degree, Not a Guarantee 

That subheading has been paraphrased frequently by many over the years.

Many unemployed folk have more education than the interview panel does. That group of professionals knows the applicant’s background. Does the candidate know theirs?

How many people with degrees see the futility of applying for work at companies where the staff doesn’t have comparable qualifications? How many of them know to research this prior to applying? This is part of examining company culture to see if an organization is a good fit.

Seven years ago, I met a young single mother with an associate’s degree in medical billing. Without two years of work experience in that industry, she couldn’t get hired. The education she sacrificed to earn only benefited medical billing technicians pursuing the degree. She was furious because she wasted her time, acquired debt, couldn’t get her foot in the door, and felt betrayed by her vocational school.

 

Considering a Business

More than is said, we are truly on our own in the workforce. The traditional rules have changed and will continue to do so. Entrepreneurship is at least one student option that tends to be ignored. Because of it and imagination, we have new technologies and many previously nonexistent jobs. They were created by those who defied tradition well enough to become innovators.

A note about entrepreneurship—lots of people without the experience advise those who consider it or are already in it. Unfortunately, they repeat old wives’ tales, dogma, unsubstantiated gossip, and information they’ve never applied. They cite the failures of those they know (or only know of) as reasons to avoid it. Their ignorance is evidenced by labeling failure as incompetence. They’ve obviously never heard of perseverance, a small business basic.

 

Smarter Than You Think

Students are beyond the stereotypes they are typically fed. No wonder they are either unexcited about furthering their educations or only interested in higher-paying degree programs.

  1. They mimic the experienced people they know or see.
  2. We’ve taught them to fear serious dreaming about their lives.
  3. Work is seen as drudgery that should command the highest possible price.
  4. Happiness isn’t considered the way money is.
  5. We’ve demonstrated that happiness doesn’t pay.
  6. We discourage doing work we like by calling it unrealistic.
  7. The truth is that most of us don’t know how to make our imaginations pay.

If you are for the positives on the above list, you are a mentor. If you are opposed to the negatives, you are, too. Can’t we encourage kids to dream while they don’t have to pay bills or raise families? We discourage their uniqueness as if they have every possible adult responsibility already.

 

True Interests Drive Motivation

How long can someone uphold the lie of a job or industry that doesn’t reflect his or her true interests and skills? Once they know it, how long can an untrue career path be faked with no escape plan? One should exist for the sanity and satisfaction of the individual. It is his or her responsibility. Some people are good at math, but others love it. There is a difference.

 

Experience from Mentors

Every adult knows something kids don’t. Genius is unnecessary. We should inform students of all of their options, including the standard ones. Maybe then they’ll be more empowered, successful, and optimistic. Take it personally because it is personal. Get involved. Help just one of them succeed. It should be your kid. Get them to the meat before their hunger is depleted. Care enough to prevent the waste of years fearing the possible. Do high school and college counselors recommend mentoring to students? If not, they should.

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Why a Tattletale Is My (and Your) New Best Friend

Lately, my evenings have been chock full of homework that isn’t mine. Makeup work is the worst kind. That’s because it’s added to current assignments.

 

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Is It Parenthood Already?

Anyway, there’s a reason for the madness. After one month of school, my daughter had Fs in four classes, including language arts and math. (I hear payback has puppies.) I was deranged. We had this experience back in April. It led to two months of homework for dinner. Rearranging my daily schedule was necessary. All of it was the incomplete consequence of 15 months at a charter school that rarely assigned homework. On the upside, she somehow managed an A in Study Skills.

 

Creating More Time

Then I withdrew her from the afterschool program. Since it wasn’t part of the school, it wasn’t set up to question whether she had any homework to do. In other words, the staff there can only take a kid’s word for it. A lie isn’t detected, much less investigated, because it’s a lot to ask. Guidelines ensure the students are safe, accounted for, and supervised. That gets done.

 

Using Available Resources

My daughter’s school uses Infinite Campus for tracking grades. Using that was still too little, too late. Many online, interactive applications exist for students. One is Edmodo, which is used to assign homework and take quizzes or tests. Students can also ask the teachers questions there. My daughter was using it like Facebook, according to one of her teachers. I’m glad I was told. Apparently, that’s common. Now I forbid her from using it.

I pondered why my daughter lied about having homework or upcoming quizzes and tests. She would tell me the night before a project was due that she’d had it for 10 days. It was news to me. She had to make up a half-mile run that she didn’t pass. Nothing was making sense. A dietary change was a good idea.

One of her teachers told me that she was a joy to have in class. Another said something similar. Yet another explained that she was too social, talking when she should be listening. They all knew about her behavior. Subtlety is nice until it fails.

 

Never Miss Any Dirt

Infinite Campus has an app for my phone. While less detailed than the desktop version, it did the job with grades and assignments. I just couldn’t get past after-the-fact data. One day, I tried out everything on it. There was an option for notifications. I could receive them for grades, assignments, attendance, or any combination of those.

There’s even a section called Planner. It’s for assignments due in less than a week. Unfortunately, it was empty. I am certain that she has nightly science homework.

 

Better and Cheaper Than a Private Investigator

Not two days later, I was astounded.

Infinite Campus was spying on my daughter! The only thing it didn’t tell me was whether she was caught talking in class. The messages were short like tweets.

  1. I got a message telling me she was late and for which class. No more wasting time between passing periods for her!
  2. One update told me what her overall grade was for the week in a particular course.
  3. The same happened when an assignment was graded. It even gave the score she earned versus points possible.
  4. Test grades are also sent to me in the same format.
  5. If there was information during a weekend, I got that as well.

 

Moments of Truth

I asked my daughter if she had homework or tests coming soon. She hemmed and hawed, mentioning two assignments. I piped up information on an upcoming social studies project, courtesy of Infinite Campus. Then she had more to say. I did the same regarding another course. Her response was similar.

Here’s the kicker: I told my daughter I’d subscribed to Infinite Campus’ notifications. She wasn’t moved. Then I said that it sent me a message saying she was late not five minutes after I dropped her off at school. She stared at me in silence.

That evening, I told her about all the notices I’d received. I explained that when a test was graded, I was notified. I reminded her that this was true for every assignment, quiz, or exam entered into the system. For two more days, I reported what the tattletale said. During that time, she was still less cooperative than needed.

 

Learning an End Zone Dance

Infinite Campus told on her like a little brother or sister. She had nowhere to hide. No longer could she play the teachers and me like ping-pong balls. Not being able to reach them in the evening was not a barrier anymore.

Then the improvements came. Her lowest grade percentage nearly doubled. She seemed glad to be able to give me the news. Fresh notifications are reported better scores. She checked them herself with the app.

For dinner, I’m thinking spinach pizza on an eggplant crust will do. The bear in living with a teenager has become a yummy bear claw.

 

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The College Experience: Tradition v. Myth

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To some, the “college experience” is code for enjoying the benefits of adulthood while avoiding its responsibilities and obligations.

No offense is meant to those who are serious about the purpose of college. This post is not about or for them.

Those offended may be too incensed to realize that wisdom includes hindsight. Someone with a shorter history will have proportionately less of that, so the soapbox speech given will probably express entitlement to basic rights, liberty, and freedom. More than likely, it will reflect regurgitation as opposed to knowledge. It’s usually an unavoidable tendency toward disagreement and defensiveness.

Becoming an adult and finding the individual self is part of any journey. Beginning with young adulthood, the quest for uniqueness presents itself. College becomes the way to retain the comforts of 16 or 17 with all the rights and privileges of 18. It is four more years to be less than a fully responsible adult before the work world or a expenses decree that it must end.

(Note: People at least 10 years older than this group will admit that they were clueless at 18, something only aging could teach them.)

That is why work experience, whether via volunteering, interning, or working for pay, is necessary. Some students never get the point or properly weigh their college options. They don’t understand why some of them will earn great salaries upon graduation despite lacking work experience. Others who worked will start out at entry level, perhaps because the chosen employment wasn’t relevant to the major. They refuse to accept accountability.

If they had taken assessment tests during the K-12 years to choose a career or major, they’d be willing to obtain that experience whether they needed it or not. Their genuine interest would change the entire game with goal setting and achievement through ambition, desire, and motivation. It would also tell them who they truly are.

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